Tim and I decided to spend some time on campus at our nearby university for our Saturday morning date this past weekend, and we had a great time!
We LOVED seeing all of the gorgeous foliage in full bloom –
thoroughly enjoyed cooling off at the fountain –
and had fun walking around campus, talking and taking in some of the other sights –
(we even hung out with John Purdue for a while) –
After our jaunt around campus, we headed over to School House of Chili for some delicious chili dogs. We were very happy with our first visit there, and given their summertime special ($1.59 chili dogs, folks!), I imagine that we’ll be back for more :).
After our date yesterday morning, Tim and I have also discovered another purpose for these times: working through disagreements. For real. (And yes, we do have disputes sometimes.)
At the very start of our date, a minor disagreement somehow turned into a full-fledged discussion (if you know what I mean), and I inwardly regretted our decision to take some time away from life responsibilities yesterday to spend time together. As we began talking through our issue, however, we were both encouraged by two characteristics of our discussion :
- we talked with the mindset that we are on the same team. There was no attitude of “me vs. you” during our discussion; but rather, a desire on both ends to find a solution, and
- we recognized that we both have issues to work on. Neither of us are perfect, and there are always areas for each of us to grow in as we aim to honor God – and each other – in our marriage.
*Side note: when I say that we both had the “same team” mindset, I’m mainly referring to Tim’s attitude. I struggled, and felt like we were on opposite sides of the fence for awhile, and wanted to throw rocks at him for a second (ONE second). But he gently led the conversation and kept reminding me of the truth, and I’m so thankful for his humble leadership!
So what started out as a rocky and tear-producing time (for me, not Tim) actually turned out to be a hugely beneficial and, overall, enjoyable date! I highly recommend times like these, in which you and your spouse can make honest assessments of where you’re both at in your relationship and how you both can continue growing in the area of loving one another, to the glory of God and for the purpose of proclaiming the gospel through your marriage (Eph. 5:22-33).
P.S. It also turns out that I’m married to one of the greatest men ever. Seriously. So thankful!
“Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law…Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfilling of the law.” – Romans 13:8&10